One of the toughest conversations a child can have with their parent concerns getting them assistance through a senior home care agency. To them, it signals the end of their independence and often leads them to think, “Well, this means I’m one step away from the nursing home.” It’s a conversation no adult child looks forward to.
At Home Instead, we’ve helped many families throughout Naples, Florida and the surrounding area make the transition to having a caregiver help their aging loved one not just to survive home care, but to thrive. We know when and how to suggest senior home care, and we’re happy to share that with you.
When to Suggest Senior Home Care
Have the tough conversation sooner rather than later. Your parent is not likely to talk about future home care when they’re under duress due to an urgent medical issue. Do the best you can to be proactive – bring up the subject when they’re in a good place physically, mentally, and emotionally. It’s the easiest way to broach the topic of home care, explore their thoughts, and determine the best way to manage the conversation in the future.
How to Suggest Senior Home Care
When the time is right to talk with your loved one about receiving in-home care, you want to do it to the best of your ability. Based on our experience, here are some tips on how to suggest senior home care.
Pick the right time and place.
The timing of the conversation is crucial, as is the location. Start the conversation with them when they’re rested and relaxed. Many times, early-mid morning works well because seniors typically have the most energy and feel most content. Pick a spot where they’re comfortable, and that’s private. Their favorite sitting chair with no one else around is often a good place to chat.
The initial reaction to your suggestion may be less than favorable. Remember, they feel that their independence is at stake, and they’ll sometimes get defensive about having assistance. If things get off to a rocky start, breathe deep and listen, don’t react. Postpone the discussion if it’s headed downhill fast unless your loved one faces immediate health or financial risk.
Find out what your options are before having the conversation. If possible, talk with a home care agency before you talk the situation over with your loved one. Learn what services are available, who might personally care for your parent, the cost, etc. Having answers to your loved one’s questions can help them feel more confident about the direction in which you’re leading them.
Talk with your siblings, spouse, or supportive friend. Share with them what you’re observing and feeling and get their feedback. Future disputes between you can be avoided by keeping everyone “in the loop” about how Mom or Dad is doing.
Think back to times in your life when you felt threatened and exposed. That’s probably how they’re feeling as they sort through all of their emotions about growing older and becoming more dependent on others.
The worst salespeople are those that talk too much. Once you’ve stated your concerns and proposed a solution, ask them what they’re thinking and how they’re feeling – then sit back and listen. Like you, your parent wants to be heard and respected. Actively listening shows them you hear them, that you value their feelings and opinion, and that you wish to provide an environment where they can remain safely at home.
Let Home Instead of Naples, FL Help You With the Transition to Senior Home Care
Call us today at (239) 990-8122 if you have a senior living in Naples, Fort Myers, or Charlotte County who needs help at home. Our compassionate caregivers will help your loved one make the adjustment to home care a pleasant experience for them.